Wednesday, April 1, 2009

tears, screaming, yelling and crying

From time to time I really struggle with my eldest child. Like last night, my husband was gone helping someone move, he came home and asked something, I said there was lots of tears, screaming, yelling and crying. On both sides. Once I got him in bed, I thought about what was going wrong. Here is what I realized, I have no idea what to do with a three year old. I also really really liked my nieces and nephews from about 12 months, until three years, once they started talking they were old news and someone else should play with them. And now I've hit that point with my own child, and there is no one else to take care of him. I have no earthly idea what the heck you do with children that speak, with preschoolers. They talk so much and make so much noise they drive me crazy.
Long story short, I realize why we are struggling with the computer. I don't know what to do with him, if he is off the computer he follows me around whining basically saying he is bored without using those words. (What am I going to do when he is a TEENAGER?!?!) He is no longer content to let me make his choices, he thinks he should decide what happens in his life, didn't he get the memo I'm the mom?!?! I also can't handle N babe crying and his whiny talking at the same time. So I fall back on the computer. Anyway, I don't think I really want to post this but yet I'm going to press the orange button.


  1. I hear you. Some days are a challenge, to put it mildly. Let me tell you about the post office the other day... No, I won't. You can imagine it, I'm sure.

    I give V all sorts of little choices during the day: 1 orange or 2, peanut butter sandwich or cheese, red shirt or blue, park or science center.

    It's especially hard with a new baby. V used to get in the fridge and get out the eggs when I was feeding Z. Splat.

    We had to introduce V to PBS when Z came along. You could let J play computer when you're nursing or busy, but not otherwise. Would that work? Or you could ask him to tell you a story while you make dinner. That's always amusing.

    GOOD LUCK!!!

  2. I'm glad you posted this. It's nice to know mine isn't the only house where there's lots of tears, screaming, yelling, and crying...

  3. I guess I feel like we should start a club....

    I find I zone out a lot in order to not have to deal with it all. I wish I could help, but maybe it helps to know that you are totally not alone!! I think it's a parent's challenge. Maybe someone else has more knowledge and can enlighten us all.

    If talk therapy helps, you can call me. :)

  4. 100000% right there with you. There are always lots of tears, screaming, yelling, and crying around here. For me though- my kids have gotten easier (for the most part) as they've gotten older. I do not like the infant/toddler stage. My kids are very challenging and can't entertain themselves worth a darn. Sorry I don't have any advice but I do feel ya. I tried so hard the other day by doing a craft and having Reagan help me with family home evening. We even made sugar cookies in the shapes of hearts, etc. She was so out of control that day even though I was trying so hard to have good activities for her. Anyways, go figure. Hope tomorrow is a better day!