I guess now that is it is March it is time to reevaluate? Not really.
I didn't want to set myself up for failure this year, I wanted to make my life easier and happier, not more complicated. I guess you could interpret this as lazy, but I don't see it this way. A few weeks ago I saw this picture/quote online, and thought this is exactly what I'm going for with my goals this year.
Here are my goals with maturity for my family, in hopes of finding a simple, joyful life.
- Cook dinner for my family more nights a week than I don't-- usually at least 5 (the week I set this, we had just come home from christmas vacation at my mom's and my children literally ate cold cereal for dinner every night)
- Clean my house on a regular basis-- how can my house be a temple if it is not clean?
- Look for ways to LITTLE ways to serve others
- Study the Ensign
- Read the Friend with my kids
- Get to know my neighbors
I feel like my goals are plenty lofty. I feel like if I accomplish all this all year, then I will have lived a good faithful year. Plus, what it is really all about is simplifying my life, how can I enjoy my children and spend time with them, if I'm obsessed with so many things that don't matter. Especially if they don't matter to kids. Normally I have at least twice as many goals, but I wanted to set myself up for success this year. I really feel like this year, who cares, move at a pace that is good for you and family. I've also realized if I focus on those six things then I spend less money, I spend less time focused on the world, and more time focused on my family and home.
The other thing I have been working on that isn't my goal for 2012, because it has been my goal since Brent moved in with us, it is that I'm trying to have a home that is inviting to others, and open to friends and neighbors, acquaintances, colleagues.
Now it is March and I have had some level of success with my goals, I hope I have been a small blessing in my friends' lives from time to time, when trying to help them. I really have actually lacked with studying the gospel, but I am trying.
But like I said, I'm stepping up my game.
(Side Note: One thing about little ways to serve, that mostly includes sharing child care with friends, help building a support system among friends, but also isn't it the friendly smile, or being polite to a store clerk. I feel like it is.)
It is spring and although it will probably snow a good twenty times from here until the end of June, it is warmer some days, so I want to get and be active with my kids-- goal seven.
Plus I have started indexing again-- goal eight. I haven't indexed in 4 years, what?! Four years, I couldn't believe it has been so long, when I started again, it turned me to shame. I actually feel like I've been nudged for months by the spirit to index, but I kept coming up with excuses. When finally one day I said to myself, Lesli do you want the blessings you are praying for or not? Then the answer was clear, get on the computer and index. K, lets be honest, I was probably already on the computer. I don't index everyday, but I'm trying to index every day I have spare time, which is not always. The spirit is helping, it tells me INDEX when I'm wasting time online, so I do a batch or two.
Last sunday Brent taught a lesson on Family History, he shared a story of mine that happened from indexing four years ago. Later that day when discussing his lesson, I said, really how many blessings does the Lord have waiting for us, if we just change a minor thing? This was more a knock to myself than anyone else.
Moral of the story: Simplify. Move at a pace that is comfortable. Who cares what marathon Sally Super Next Door Neighbor is running, life is not a competition, it is not a zero sum game. You can't love those who you judge, and that includes yourself.